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My goal is to be a pharmacist, and I am currently attending the University of Kansas, studying on that track. I am in my third semester, and for whatever reason, I totally lost all motivation for schoolwork this semester. I knew my apathy was going to get me in trouble, and I did care, but could not find the drive to get back into the swing of things. It may honestly have been a bout of depression, or I may have cracked under the pressure (read on), I’m not sure why I couldn’t find the motivation to bail myself out while I still could this semester, when I still had the motivation to move toward my career.
Now, while I have A’s in my two honors elective courses and expect to do well on finals, my science course grades are in the hole. My organic chemistry lecture grade is at a D, and my O.chem lab and microbiology lecture grades will be curved, but they are only around C level right now.
Previously I have had all A’s in high school, and A’s with only 2 B’s my freshman year of college.
Finals are next week, my pharmacy school applications are due in January and February, and I have discovered that in order to have the proper science GPA to get in to the KU pharmacy school, I would need to get at least a B on my O.chem final, and an A in every other class.
I am going to try my butt off, but in all honesty, it’s a task that’s near impossible and I’m not sure I should waste hundreds of dollars in pharmacy school applications when I am fairly certain my GPA will not be high enough after this semester. I really want to just retake some or most of this semester’s coursework.
The trouble is, my parents have told me that if I do not get into KU’s pharmacy school for Fall of ’09, then they will pull me out of KU and make me go study something else at a school in our home state. I really don’t want to leave KU despite my bad semester for a number of reasons, I like the school, I like the town, I like my friends here, my (very serious) boyfriend is here, and I have actually liked the majority of my classes up until this semester. If they impose this ultimatum, I don’t know what I will do, as I’m not sure what I would like as a backup career route, because so many jobs I think I would enjoy (working with animals, etc.) my parents don’t view as ‘realistic’ career choices.
How do I explain to them that it’s just not going to happen this year, and to let me stay here? I pay half my tuition now, but if I could stay, I would take out the loans to pay all of it. I realise my trouble is my own fault, I just want my parents to give me a second chance to get it right instead of just pulling me out or disowning me for continuing on at KU when they want to pull me out.
My boyfriend is fully supportive of whatever decision I make and would help me finance it (even if I just decided I wanted a semester off to regroup so long as I returned to school), but my parents would view my relying on him as rejection of them. Plus, I don’t want to be that kind of burden on him. But why can’t my parents be as understanding and helpful as my boyfriend?
What do I say to diffuse the situation? I know they will be mad, but I am so scared they will just yank me out and away from my HOME here in Lawrence and not let me go back…
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This is a tough one. As a parent (and one of my kids is a PharmD) I definitely see your parents’ point of view. They have worked their butts off to get the money for you to go out of state to school, and now you have seriously let them down. You know yourself there is NO chance you are going to be admitted to pharm school with a D in o-chem. If you and they had a bargain that you needed to meet a certain grade standard to stay in school and you didnt do it, then you really can’t complain.
I think you also have to admit that your plan B is not very realistic. Your boyfriend is going to help you pay for school? That’s pretty wildly unlikely. And you are going to take out loans? How many tens of thousands of dollars are we talking about here? You will be three years in debt before you even apply to pharm school, and even if you take your courses again and score A’s there is no guarantee that you will ever be admitted to pharm school. You know how competitive it is. There are still PCATs and other tough courses ahead where you could mess up.
Looks to me like you are headed home. That’s a very tough break, but your parents are not the ones who messed up. I hope that you will be able to take a little break and decide what comes next.
Good luck.
first, it doesn’t matter if your boyfriend is supportive or not. they come and go. just explain to your parents that you had a rough semester and that you want to retake some courses to get your grades up. devise a plan on how you will pay for it all yourself. explain to them that while you respect their opinions and appreciate everything they have done for you, you are an adult and have to act as one. this means that you are going to pay for repeating the necessary coursework on your own dime. be polite, respectful, and mature. they will appreciate that you are being responsible. as much as they want to, they can’t force you to leave school. trust me, i have been there. i lost my scholarship and heard about it so much that i ended up just paying for the rest of school myself. when i got out, i went to the army and that gave them something new to be upset about! haha
but seriously, good luck with it
The answer is always HONESTY and HUMILITY. How can you argue with the truth? Be sincere, be authentic…and have faith.
Your parents have a bigger picture than your boyfriend in mind…and they have a history and know all the pitfalls along the way, so they are probably overly cautious and fearful based on past experiences (but that’s just my psychological guess).
good luck. DREAM BIG!
First of all, you are legally an adult. It is your education. Do not let your parents “yank” you out and bring you closer to home, they have no physical way of doing that. The worst they can do is threaten to cut off money, but if you pay for your own tuition next semester, then they really don’t have anyway to force you to come home.
If it were me (I am also in my third semester of university), I would break it to my parents sooner rather than later. It seems like you could tell it to them similarly as how you explained yourself to us; mention you are doing well in two classes but your science marks have dropped a bit, because you were unprepared for the increased workload and because you’re stressed about applying and their threats didn’t help either. Say that you hope to make up for your lower marks by doing very well on your exams, but if that doesn’t happen, you would rather retake some of the courses and be confident in your marks than spend money applying to schools and not get accepted. Ask them for their support because you are very stressed out and just wanted to let them know that if your finals aren’t enough to make you confident in your grades, you’d rather be safe than sorry and retake them.
Remember, they can’t force you to leave. You’re an adult, you said you can pay for your next semester. If they say they will make you leave anyway, say that your school has such a good reputation and everything else, so that it looks better on your pharmacy school application and are not comfortable leaving at this point.
Good luck.